Something that I have found is that being friends with a kid who has autism is not easy. Sometimes they can become annoying, too quiet, or some might even say too weird. Autism is something that these children can not help. The pointers listed above may help you. When I read them I noticed that they were all reasonable. Such as one of the first ones: "We do not like crowds". My best friends cousin is autistic and I babysit him quite often. At home he is very talkative and we play board games, video games, jump on the trampoline, hide and go seek, and ride bikes. Sounds normal, right? Well once I went to the Homecoming parade with him and he was a total different boy. It was very hard to hold on a conversation with him if you could even get one at all. He seemed overwhelmed. Everything was flashing before him, the people, the floats, the cars, and the candy. I didn't know this side of him until I put him in a crowd. Another section I found interesting was: "Don't be easily offended". I unfortunately learned this one the hard way. I used to have a very bad face complexion and he did not understand this so he asked "Jenni, what's wrong with your face?" of "Jenni, why do you have red dots on your face?" It's something that you have to understand they can't help. They do not mean to insult you, in a way they are just being curious like any other child.
A lot of times, you will find autistic kids sitting alone, whether they are playing with toys or not, they are alone. We might find it weird but that is where their comfort is. He or she does not mind sitting alone. Sometimes it helps them gather their thoughts so never should you feel insulted if you are declined when asking if one wants to join in a game or activity.
It is also so important for people to be able to answer questions that autistic kids may ask and for us to be able to ask autistic kids about them. Do not get annoyed if the question to you is dumb or stupid, they are asking you because they trust you. Also, ask them questions about autism that you do not understand. It is a way of showing them that you are interested. They would rather have you ask about why they act the way they do than just assume that they are weird. It is just like respecting them.
One of the most important things to me is to be understanding of that child and their past. You do not know what there past has been like. Be understanding and comforting, and most of all, do no ignore them, they are humans, and it hurts to be left out or ignored.
A lot of times, you will find autistic kids sitting alone, whether they are playing with toys or not, they are alone. We might find it weird but that is where their comfort is. He or she does not mind sitting alone. Sometimes it helps them gather their thoughts so never should you feel insulted if you are declined when asking if one wants to join in a game or activity.
It is also so important for people to be able to answer questions that autistic kids may ask and for us to be able to ask autistic kids about them. Do not get annoyed if the question to you is dumb or stupid, they are asking you because they trust you. Also, ask them questions about autism that you do not understand. It is a way of showing them that you are interested. They would rather have you ask about why they act the way they do than just assume that they are weird. It is just like respecting them.
One of the most important things to me is to be understanding of that child and their past. You do not know what there past has been like. Be understanding and comforting, and most of all, do no ignore them, they are humans, and it hurts to be left out or ignored.
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